Lost in bureaucracy

In 2009, when I came here to the Netherlands, I was not married yet.

5 weeks after my partner and I arrived we decided to get married. We went to the municipality, got all our forms. One week before the actual date of our wedding, we had another form. The lady at the desk asked if I wanted to keep my maiden name or take my husband's. I didn't think much of it and said I would take my husband's na…